 A kiss is not just a kiss—it communicates a lot: your feelings and emotions, your confidence, your passion (or lack thereof), your personality, your mood, and a lot of who you are. Whether you’re new to the kissing game (and understandably nervous), are more experienced but could use some tips
for improvement, or have been kissing the same person for years and could use some advice on how to spice things up, read on for some great ideas on how you can become a better kisser today!
Be prepared
First, although you can’t always plan or expect when a kiss is going to happen and how it’s going to be executed, it’s always a good idea to be prepared for a kiss, whether you’re single, dating, or married. This means clearing your mouth of any excess “debris,” including food, cigarettes, toothbrushes, lollipops, cough candies, mints, and gum. No one wants to be kissed by someone who’s got extra “stuff” rolling around in or sticking right out of their mouths.
Using mints and gum in general, however, is a good idea, because hygiene and clean, fresh breath is another thing to think about in the kiss preparation department. Brush your teeth first thing in the morning and before you go to bed and even another time or two during the day. Keep mints and gum on hand to freshen up when you’re out and about (but remember to swallow or spit before planting that kiss).
You’ll also want to avoid overpowering foods (particularly onion and garlic, unless your kissing partner is eating the same) before puckering up. Super spicy foods and coffee are also common breath offenders and kiss-ruiners.
Finally, keep your lips soft, supple, and moist, but never wet. Use lip moisturizer throughout the day to prevent dry, cracked lips, and refrain from licking your lips (particularly right before a kiss), which will make your kisses wet and sloppy (definitely not appealing) and, in the end, only dry your lips out more.
Set the Mood
While of course you sometimes want kissing to be spontaneous, out of the blue, and unpredictable, to become a better kisser, you’ll want to learn how to set the mood, particularly for first kisses and for bringing the spark back into your “kissing life” with your spouse or longtime partner.
Try choosing a nice, romantic setting: for example, along the beach, on a bridge, watching the sunset together, during a secluded candlelight dinner, etc. Private is always better than overly public, particularly for new kissers and first kisses. If you’re really not in a romantic place, you can still set the mood with the lighting and music. In the car? Dim or turn off the car lights and play some soft music on the radio or a CD. Same thing goes for at home. You can also use candles and wine at home.
Keep in mind that you don’t always need to set the mood, either—you can wait for the mood to happen, making sure you wait for the right, and perfect, moment. Particularly if you’re new to kissing or in a new relationship, you don’t want to seem too eager or desperate or have a kiss come off as ill-timed and awkward. Trying too hard is also quite obvious (painfully so). Patience pays, and when you wait a bit, you’ll know when the time is right.
Make it a Full-Body Experience
No, we’re not talking about sex, here—keep the focus on kissing, but invite the act of kissing to be a full-body experience. This can separate amateur kissing from expert kissing. For example, try letting kissing start with your hands. Lightly touch your partner’s arms, then slowly move up to his/her neck and hair, running your fingers through his/her hair. Then try lightly kissing your partner’s neck and nibbling on the ears while your slip your hands to his/her lower back. Move into gentle and oh-so-soft lip-biting and licking before brushing your lips against his/hers, which will hopefully have your partner begging for more, and then take it from there.
Be Creative
Instead of the same old, same old, why not get a little creative? If you’ve never used your tongue, try introducing just a little tongue. Try kissing all over each other’s bodies instead of just sticking with mouth-to-mouth. You can kiss in new environments and settings. Be spontaneous and catch your lover off-guard with a passionate kiss he/she isn’t expecting. You get the idea…
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