Become A Better Flirt
Written by Carla Lowe -
Sunday, 12 October 2008
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 Are you somebody for whom flirting just doesn’t seem to come naturally? While you might think that some people are born flirts and you’re a completely hopeless case in the flirting department
, you should know that flirting is also an art that can be learned. And it’s easier than you think - even if you’re convinced you’re the most awkward person on the planet.
Here are some tips to help you become a better flirt and maybe end up making some new friends and scoring some dates.
1. Relax:
Sure, you might be a little nervous, but you don’t need to let it escalate into full-fledged anxiety. Before you go out, try to relax and calm your nerves as best as you can. You don’t want to start stuttering, sweating, and hyperventilating all over everyone.
2. Be confident:
Confidence is super sexy and a big turn-on for most men and women. A confident person is happy and satisfied with him/herself and his/her live, which says a lot. However, keep in mind there is a fine line between confident and overconfident, or cocky. No one wants to date an arrogant jerk who can’t shut up about him/herself.
3. Smile:
Smiling is the most simple and natural way to flirt and show somebody you’re interested in him/her. If you’re not a naturally “smiley” person, start working on it! You don’t want to go overboard, though; smiling too much at everybody can send the wrong message—that you’re creepy and/or desperate!
 4. Make the move:
Find someone who catches your eye? Go over to say hello and introduce yourself. Now is not the time for timidity. Get out there and strike up a conversation!
5. Be yourself:
This advice may sound a little outdated and even cliché, but it’s true. If you’re trying too hard to be something or somebody you’re not, it will show, even if you think you’re a pretty decent actor. And, sooner or later, the real you will reveal itself—often at an opportune time.
However, this tip is only true to a certain extent. For example, if your real self is shy and quiet, you’re going to have to give yourself a confidence boost and practice your socializing skills before you can really become a successful flirt. Further, if your real self is easily prone to anger and fits of rage, try to leave your temper at home (and consider investing in an anger-management course).
6. Use your body:
No, you don’t want to start suggestively and inappropriately touching strangers, but try gently and lightly touching the person with whom you’re talking on the hand, arm, or shoulder, particularly while laughing together.
7. Practice:
If you’ve got some willing friends, try “practice flirting” with them. If that’s a little too weird, flirt with yourself in front of the mirror. Sure, it might be awkward, but, just as they say, practice makes perfect! (And, keep this in mind: would you rather be awkward with yourself in front of the mirror, or awkward out in public while you’re trying to make the moves on some unsuspecting person at the club?)
8. Enjoy it:
Have fun! Flirting is supposed to be fun, not work. Although it takes some time and practice in the beginning, try to enjoy the process of learning and growing and meeting new people.
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