10 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life
Written by Carla Lowe -
Friday, 19 September 2008
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Stop the same old routine with these fun ideas
 No one wants a boring sex life, but most couples—particularly those who have been together for several years already—seem to end up in Boring Routine Sex Land at some point.
We could all admit, although perhaps not readily, to wanting to have better sex. Better sex can come from learning new techniques and positions, but it can also come from simply throwing out the same old routine and throwing in some fun, creativity, and variety to your sex life.
Here are 10 fun ways for you to spice up your sex life:
- Up the romance factor. Sometimes it’s hard, particular for women, to suddenly turn the “sex switch” on. Try getting romantic together first. Maybe go out on a date together, give each other massages, take a bath together, or cuddle together, and when the mood feels right, start some old-fashioned making out.
- Be spontaneous. Planning ahead of time when you’re going to have sex can kill the spark in your sex life pretty quickly. Catching your lover off guard is a fantastic and simple way to “bring sexy back” into your relationship.
- Ignite all your senses. Play some soft, sensual music in the background, dim and lights and light some candles, burn some incense, give each other full-body massages, open a bottle of wine, eat off each other, and see where your imagination takes you.
- Watch or read something sexy together. Watching a sexy “adult” video and/or reading erotica (out loud) to each other can really heat things up.
 Talk dirty. Tell each other, ahead of time, what you’re going to do to each other later that night (or whenever you’ll be making love). Start early in the day with phone messages and e-mails or notes (provided no one else will have access to these!). This will stimulate both of your imaginations. Keep the dirty talk going during your lovemaking to make it even more fun and interesting.
- Try role-playing. Get creative by taking on the personas of certain characters. For example, you could pretend you’re having an affair, you could be the nurse or doctor and the patient, the kidnapper and prisoner, the business executive and the client, the teacher and the student, etc.
- Dress the part. Sexy lingerie for him and her, rather than just going from your regular clothes to nakedness, is a great way to add more interest to your sex life.
- Go toy shopping. Don’t be scared or feel embarrassed about visiting an adult toy store together and purchasing and trying out some fun sex toys. You could also try tying each other up or using handcuffs. It’s a great way to add a little excitement in the bedroom.
- Get visual. If you’re comfortable with the idea, try videotaping yourselves having sex. If you’d rather not have “evidence” of your encounter lying around, try making love in front of a mirror.
- Try a new environment. Having sex in the bedroom, on the bed, every time is sure to quickly lead to sex feeling like a boring, routine ritual. If you don’t think you’re risky enough for sex in public places, start small by trying other rooms and places in your house (living room floor, the couch, the shower or bathtub, etc.), and then maybe try the backseat of your car. You might not think you’d ever have sex in a public restroom, an elevator, or a park, but you might surprise yourself.
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