Top Seven Ways To Make Your Date Love You
Written by Michael Lazar - Saturday, 27 September 2008
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While it plagues this writer to admit this—and yes I am a guy happily married now for ten years—most men have no idea how to behave or act while on that date.
In fact, women didn’t just dub us “Pigs” for any good reasons at all. The truth be known—and I may get my tires slashed for this one—guys suck. We are pigs and we really stink at dating and following proper etiquette.
But, there is good news on the horizon for all of you archaistic dating pragmatists out there who are entirely void of the notion that being ubiquitous is not fancy. And that wearing stained clothing on a date is not chic. Help yourself a bit by following these easy top seven ways to make your date love you—and not because you’re such a funny fellow!
Mind your manners: Gee, you would think this would be the easiest one to remember. But the fact of the matter is that most women complain about manners when on a date. Guys, here are some good rules of thumb: Keep bodily functions private. Don’t embarrass your date. Eat with your elbows off the damn table. And never, I mean never, use profanity!
Keep good hygiene: Did you shave today? Did you brush your teeth? Do I sound like your freaking mother? Good! Because most guys don’t realize that women have no interest in sweaty, dirty, nasty smelling dudes who forgot what a shower was. The ‘Wild West’ days are over—act like a civilized human being you lug! There are other methods of good hygiene as well. Like making sure that you splash some cologne on before you head out the door, assuring that your shirt is not wrinkled, and that you look and feel as presentable as possible.
Before you leave for your date, make certain that your breath smells good also. The last thing you want is your date pulling away from that first kiss because you wreak more than a dead bird and taste like rotten potatoes. Another good rule of thumb is to bring some breath spray or fresh breath strips along with you. After dinner make sure that you pop one of these into your mouth so you taste and smell great. Avoid using chewing gum—this can be found to be very annoying for many dates whom do not like to see you chomping and suckling on a piece of gum and blowing bubbles.
 Arrive on time: Being late for that first date is the surest way to make them irate. And an irate date is no fun—they don’t want to go out with anyone. There is a little rhyme for all of your procrastinators out there who can not seem to get anywhere on time. Oh and some more advice for you all: It’s called a watch, use it. Your date will be! The best way that you can show that you are reliable and worthy of their attention is by demonstrated that you are punctual and that you care.
A person who arrives to a date on time shows that they understand responsibility. Dates are looking for somebody that has the potential to be the ‘one’ the person whom they may be interested in a long term relationship with. You are always being judged. Demonstrate that you are worthy of their affection and that you are both reliable and responsible. Do this and your date will easily realize that you are a decent person who can be relied upon.
Pick a good restaurant: Keep in mind that you will certainly not impress your date by taking them to the local Panda Express. Call around to a few restaurants. And here’s a no-brainer: actually ask your date what kind of food that they like to eat. Don’t demonstrate that you are selfish by picking a restaurant you like…you see for once in your life it’s not about you: it’s about them! To really find out what they like, bring up the conversation coyly during any other conversation.
Start off by talking about other restaurants that you had a great experience at. Your date will either respond positively or negatively. For example, if you say, “I went to this sushi place the other day and man, the salmon rolls were magnificent!” Gauge your date’s response to this mental suggestion. If they respond positively then you already know that they like sushi and that you can suggest a good place nearby. Otherwise respond like, “Yeah, sushi is not for everyone, it took me a while to acquire a taste for it…what food is your favorite food?” This way you will automatically know what they want to eat.
 Buy her flowers: Diamonds are just hunks of carbon—essentially worthless if the holders were to release all of the diamonds they are hording in their vaults. But a flower demonstrates class. It says I really care about you here is some living thing that I cut from the earth to give to you so it can die in your hands. Girls love it! And there are other reasons why girls love flowers too. It reminds them of nature, beauty, love and loss.
A flower is a representative of natural grace to women. They adore flowers for many reasons, but most often because they never really get them. Do not, and I repeat, do not buy a single rose at the local convenience store that costs a dollar. This sappiness will surely fail. Rather, get a bouquet of mixed flowers, roses included, and present them to your date when you first meet. This way there is most certainly a flower in there that they will like.
 Be creative: Dinner and a movie went out with the 1950s. Think of something a bit more. Sure dinner is nice. But rack your noodle. Think: fun activities, places to go, clubbing and so on. You are a big boy, I am sure that you will come up with something! But I know that most men utterly fail at this prospect. Think of all of those cheesy reality TV dating shows where they go on plenty of planned activities prior to and following dinner.
Take your date swing dancing; they will surely be surprised at your willingness to not worry about yourself and how goofy you look. Do something where you can show them that you are willing to learn something new, something strange and unfamiliar. Take them to a hookah lounge, where it is quiet and where you can learn more about them. Show them that you are different, exceptional and broad-ranged in your tastes.
 Keep your eyes on the prize: If you think that your date will not notice every time that your eyes follow other women that pass you by: THINK AGAIN! Always keep your eyes on your date; you can watch other women any other time—when your date is not present. The last thing that you want to do is have your date catching your eyes straying as another beautiful women passes on by. Demonstrate that you are the same as other men and you might as well tell them you are a jerk straight out.
Instead, focus your attention on them…undivided. Demonstrate that you care about what they have to say and how they look. Make sure that you compliment them often, and mean it. Talk about their hair, their eyes, their facial features and most importantly, their personality. Let them know that you think they are great, and that they have many special aspects of their personality that you favor. Keep your eyes on the prize!
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